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One of my most popular posts
I originally posted this blog, “The Subtle OCD Compulsion You Might Not Know You’re Doing,” on my Beyond the Doubt Psychology Today blog in August of 2019. Since then, the post has been visited more than 50,000 times, making it one of the most-read posts I’ve ever written. I’m guessing it’s so popular because many of us with OCD can engage in this particular compulsion for years without ever realizing what we’re doing; when we finally learn about this subtle ritual, a huge light bulb goes off as to how OCD has been keeping us stuck and what we can do to turn things around.
What is this subtle compulsion?
The subtle compulsion is this: we start to believe that what OCD is telling us is true, making us feel depressed or guilty or regretful, etc. and then we change how we engage in life to match these OCD-generated emotions. And this subtle change in our approach to life super-charges the disorder.
A new metaphor I use to describe this subtle compulsion to clients is as follows: Say that you’ve been charged with a crime, gone through a trial, and have received a “guilty” verdict from the jury. You haven’t been sentenced yet, so you don’t know exactly what the punishment is going to be, but you anticipate it’s going to be bad. Therefore, you begin to approach life as someone whose days are numbered, as if you’re counting the hours until your sentence is handed down. Everything becomes muted: you may act excited about things on the outside, but you’re not—not really—because you can’t be truly happy because your life is essentially ruined.
Learn more so you can identify if you’re doing this subtle compulsion … and how to break the cycle
But the only thing truly ruining your life is OCD, and the more you act as though you’re living on borrowed time, the stronger OCD gets. Read the full blog post or listen to the conversation Kimberley Quinlan and I have about it on Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast to learn more about how to spot this subtle compulsion and the techniques you can use to break out of this OCD cycle… so you can reclaim your life!
To learn more about how this subtle compulsion manifested in my life so you can better identify it in yours, see Chapter 6 in Is Fred in the Refrigerator? Taming OCD and Reclaiming My Life. Click here to purchase your copy.